Before we get to the tips, let me tell you my story so you know that we are on the same page of suffering. For years, literally like 25 years, I have struggled with my weight. Fat didn’t always love me. I wasn’t always overweight. It started after I had my first child, young at just 18 years old. Then I had another, and another. I finally figured out what was causing that and stopped having kids. 😉
I went from weighing 94lbs before my first pregnancy to 205lbs at my highest weight. I yoyo’d everywhere in between. I was finally diagnosed very late in life with Celiac Disease and I thought, “GREAT! Now I will be able to maintain my weight again!” Yeah. No.
A Diagnosis and a Disapointment
With the Celiac diagnosis, I thought I had found the reason to my weight problems. That damn gluten! I was also a bread addict. Not even joking there. I once bled for bread. In Paris I actually cut my face and drew blood with a piece of bread. Ask me about that, haha.
But alas, this diagnosis didn’t help my weight issues at all, it added to them. Basically, with Celiac, your body is not properly digesting food. That means a portion of what you eat is not being digested properly and thus not really contributing to weight or nutrition gain. When you stop eating gluten, and your gut heals, it starts working again. That means you’re now properly digesting foods and gaining weight and nutrition. I gained weight even more easily.
Not only did I lose the love of my life, bread, but even more fat. And I was trying to break up with fat! But like any bad relationship, it just wouldn’t go away.
It became even harder to control my weight because now I was eating even less than I had been used to eating my whole life making me this walking contradiction of being fat AND hungry. If your body isn’t absorbing everything you eat, you can eat more without gaining. This diagnosis just made everything more difficult.
A Slap in the Face
I was miserable. I didn’t want to go anywhere. I didn’t want to do anything. I didn’t want to see myself and I didn’t want anyone else to see me either. I felt like my life was over. I know. Dramatic. But I absolutely hated not just what I looked like but what I felt like. I felt like I was trapped in a fat suit. Every move was uncomfortable with something jiggling or squishing against something else. Some people look gorgeous heavier. I am not one of those people. Maybe all this is very shallow talking about not liking the way I looked, but I am just being honest.
I was tired all the time. I couldn’t walk very far and I used to love hiking. Travel was difficult as rushing for a plane or a bus or a train resulted in me feeling like I was going to pass out struggling for air. This was not the life I wanted to live but I felt completely helpless.
Then I mentally slapped mysef.
I dug down and tried everything – twice. I had a little success here and there but it never stayed. The biggest success I had was on HCG. I lost gobs of weight doing that rip off diet. I mean yeah, I lost weight. But they act like you need to buy their $400 shots to lose that weight. Let me very clear, you don’t. Eating 500 calories a day, ANYONE will lose weight and the “hunger reducing” benefit of their shots is complete bull-to-the-shit. You can read my post about all that over here.
I tried Atkins (what they used to call Keto). That worked a bit but I couldn’t really keep it up because I craved foods that were not Keto. I tried South Beach. I tried calorie restriction. I tried exercise. I tried shakes. I tried pills. I tried all these things and again I felt helpless. I gave up. I just stayed fat for a few years. I missed out on so much. I wasn’t really present for anything. All I could think about was my weight and how I couldn’t do anything about it.
Then I slapped myself again.
I took a look back on all the stuff I had done. I realized that I had success at losing weight, it was KEEPING IT OFF that was the problem. I realized that if I could just find some balance, some deal I could strike with myself that was a way of eating and doing that I could actually LIVE with, I could be successful. But what was that way?
Now I am going to tell you what I did that actually worked. How I unlocked my own weightloss superpower and how the struggle is going. Because my friends, it will always be a struggle while delicious food exists.
Weightloss Superpower Tip #1: Find Friendly Foods
One thing that the HCG diet was good for wasn’t the stupid HCG Shots, but rather the actual diet itself. Its a very detox like diet. No sugar. No oil. No fat. You eat very lean meats and low carb veggies. On that diet you only eat 500 calories a day of these foods, which I do not suggest. However, I do suggest doing this at like 1200 or so calories a day. Not only will you lose weight, but you will detox your body from foods that are unfriendly to you and get your metabolism in a stable state.
What eating this way did for me was help me to lose weight, of course, because of the 1200-1500 calories a day I was eating. It also helped me to get rid of cravings, though they were intense the first couple of weeks. I knew this was not a way I could eat forever. If you can, you’re some kinda super human and I tip my hat to you! But just for a time. In three months eating this way, I lost 27 pounds. Yep. You read that right. 27 pounds.
From there, you can begin to add foods back and with close monitoring of your weight, how you feel, etc., and see what foods are friendly to you and which ones cause your metabolism to revolt like rabid gnomes stashing fat away for the apocalypse. I actually love this little journal which helps you track these things.
Summary of Tip #1 – Finding Friendly Foods:
- Decide on a VLCD number that works for you. Suggestion: 1000-1500
- Eat ONLY lean meats. (Chicken, fish, very lean steak, etc.)
- Eat ONLY low sugar/carb veggies (Cucumber, zuchinni, broccoli, cauliflower, etc.)
- NO Sugar.
- NO Fat/Oil.
- No Starch.
- Do this for 30-90 days, however long you can stand it but at least 30 days.
- Goal: Lose weight, Detox body
- Start adding very, very, small amounts of ONE THING AT A TIME back in. Start with whatever you miss most.
- Weigh yourself everyday and track how you feel. Try this journal!
- When you notice that you’re gaining weight or feeling bad, remove whatvever you just added. Weight a week and see if you feel better. If you do, then that thing is not a friendly food. If you don’t feel better, examine what you have been doing honestly and determine what has changed. Unchange it 🙂
- Goal: Find the foods that your body can tolerate without making you feel lousy or gaining weight.
I started fasting about 3-4 months ago. I do intermittent fasting so I stop eating at 6pm and don’t eat again until 8am the next day. That’s 14/8. Sixteen hours fasting eight hours eating.
Prior to that, I had started “keto”. For me its more like low carb really. I don’t do exactly full keto, though I am very careful about sugar/starch. I do still eat it. I won’t lie and say I didn’t see better results on full keto, its just kind of hard to do when you live with/cook for others that are not also doing keto.
Thus, I have settled on full keto for breakfast/lunch which are meals we all eat on our own anyway, then I generally have some kind of starch for dinner such as rice or potatoes. Still no sugar though!
I feel way better with fewer starch-carbs running around in my bloodstream. Easier to focus, less moody. My weight is also easier to maintain. But it wasn’t as great without the fasting.
Adding fasting has really been the secret ingredient for managing my weight. I have a lot of trouble with my weight because I was an undiagnosed celiac all my life, and that caused some real havoc on my body. For example, my thyroid is shot, my metabolism is all screwed up and my gut is pretty unpredictable.
So if you struggle with weight loss and you’re damn sick of people being like, “eat less, exercise more” as if that is some kind of magic trick that works for everyone, maybe give fasting and low carb approaches a try.
I have lost about 54lbs with this approach over 7-8 months. That’s not too bad, eh? Still dropping but actually enjoying the journey because I know what works for ME now. Its like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I am not broken or some kind of failure. I just needed to stop trying what worked for everyone else and figure out what worked for me.
As I continue on this journey, I would say to anyone out there that feels like they are trapped in a fat suit every day, that can’t stop thinking about “being fat” all the time. Who says no to invitations and is so happy COVID is here so they don’t have to go outside and can stay inside and hide – What are you waiting for? Start figuring out what works for you! You can start where everyone else does but don’t think just because that doesn’t work you’re somehow doomed. Tweak it. Try this and that. You WILL find something that works for you and it will be AMAZING. <3
In summary, this works for me:
- Intermittent Fasting – 16/8 or at least 14/10
- Low Carb – Start with this free calculator to figure out your macros! (great recipes too!!!)
- Don’t stress the scale. I weigh every day but I tend to bounce between weights for a few days until the lower weight sticks and I start bouncing again. Be patient with yourself. It will take time but it will be so worth it.
Last modified: April 3, 2021